Russ; Greetings Korton.
Korton; OK, let me give a brief dissertation on the
eloquence of communication and pronunciation and
annunciation in a correct easy pattern that is easy
to understand. As you will remember, I was
discussing the importance of being able to
communicate on a crisp and clear level. It has come
to my attention that you have been practicing some
of this and trying to communicate in an eloquent way
that people are interacting with you in a different
way. This is good, what is occurring is exactly what
is necessary. You are now being looked upon as a
person of respect as opposed to somebody that is
looked upon as a laid back surfer type. But that in
itself can be a useful tool, knowing when to use
which particular style of communication is the key
to a good communicator. Communicators as a whole are
not versed in just one style of communication. They
will talk in many different ways and in many
different facets depending on the situations and the
individuals they are communicating with. For
example, a good communicator dealing with children
will get down on a level that is eye to eye with
them. They know that when dealing with children,
that if you are talking to them from on high, they
will either hold you in awe or, they will get
fidgety and not listen and feel intimidated and the
information will not sink in. When you deal with
children on an eye to eye level, it is easier to
communicate with them. Again, dealing with a
different group of individuals, teenagers. Now
teenagers are a tricky group of individuals. They
are very moody, they are enjoying the first
experiences of youth, so therefore getting their
attention and holding it is something that is
necessary. You can stand there and lay down the law
and tell them the way that it is until you are green
in the face. To get the full affect you have to get
their attention and interact in way that is
beneficial for you and for them. You have to make it
interesting. They do like analogies. After all, they
are not that far from being children themselves.
Children like stories, and stories with morals.
Adolescents like analogies and a language that they
understand. Again, as with little children, if you
do the on high routine, "this is how it is, this is
the way it is, this is how it has always been", you
will lose their interest and they will get fidgety
and they will pay no attention. So you have to make
it lively and interactive for them so that they
understand and digest what is being said in a way
that is useful to them. That is another key to a
communicator. Knowing the audience and the group of
individuals that you are communicating with.
Speaking to them on a level plane. Do not talk down
to them, do not talk in a superior way. Now, dealing
with a group of adults, must adults are intelligent
enough to understand you when you are communicating
in a crisp, clear, eloquent pattern. But, if you use
slang and phrases, this too can catch their
attention. After all, does not everybody on your
planet like stories? I've mentioned three types of
stories. This is a useful tool. If you explain it in
a story, you have to be short, you wouldn't want to
be too long. A long story will lose their interest
unless you can paint a really good picture. There
are very few communicators on your planet that can
do so. Using sound bytes or phrases is again, a very
useful tool. There is an individual who is
unfortunately in the middle stages of a disease
called Alzheimer's who was supremely good and a good
example of using sound bytes to tell a story,
interact and keep your attention. This gentleman is
worth studying in his ways and styles of
communicating. Do you know who this gentleman is
R; Walter Cronkite?
Korton; No, although that is another good person to
look at. This person was a president.
Korton; Ronald Reagan. That is something else that
is important when dealing with communicating. It
doesn't matter how much you dislike a person, you
give them their full title. Former President Ronald
Reagan, current President Bill Clinton, The Prince
Of Wales. You give everybody their title. After all,
to get respect, you have to give respect. As a
communicator you need respect, so it is important to
be able to get respect and give respect. It is good
to practice when you are talking in general to give
people their correct title. If you talking to
somebody and you are discussing what you witnessed
on your communication devices, of Earl Spencer
giving a speech or Tony Blair giving a speech, the
Prime Minister of Great Britain or Her Majesty the
Queen giving a speech, you use their full title. The
Queen, well if you are not from Great Britain then
somebody might misunderstand that you are not
talking about a member of an aristocracy. OK, any
R; Yes, first off, how would you deal with
communicating to someone down here who was maybe a
surfer and spoke in the slang used by that group of
individuals? I just can't see you saying dude…..
Korton; Why not dude.
R; (laughs) It's just not you Korton.
Korton; Yes I know it is not me, but if it were
necessary to address a group of people that were of
that nature and I wanted them to understand instead
of being from on high as it were, first I would
dress in a way that matched them and learn as much
as possible about their environment so that I could
relate. I would even possibly spend some time and
learn how to surf so I could learn where they were
coming from. I would interact with them in a way
that I would be able to talk to them in their
language and understand them as much as possible.
This way they could understand where I am coming
from which in turn creates the respect.
R; Excellent Korton, thank you very much.
Korton; You're welcome. Let me add to that. It is
necessary to know where they are coming from so you
can interact in a way that is equal to them.
R; I have one more question I would like to ask at
R; When we where speaking of the future and the
problems that would come about due to unrest,
learning how to use a communication skill in dealing
with people we might interact with then at this
early stage might ease us through problems later.
For example learning some Spanish or making friends
in various walks of life might facilitate
communication with them during a crisis.
Korton; I would think that would be self evident.
OK, thank you, I will return.