Russ; Hi Karra.
Karra; OK, let me get down to my
dissertation. Mental Health. This is a nice one
because you get to dovetail it with Omal's
dissertation. Doesn't happen very often.
Karra; OK, let us look at mental health
and the definition of normal. What is normal?
Well, normal is a particular pattern that is keyed
to one individual. What may be normal for myself
may not be normal for Tia, Omal, yourself or the
host body. So normality varies from individual to
individual. So, when saying that is not normal,
that is a thought process. That is not normal for
you. Now, looking at the interaction of people
that have erratic thought processes, you have an
individual that has a pattern of behavior that
they think in a particular way. They behave in a
particular way. Let us take for example, Tia. She
can be shy, she is very intelligent and
understanding, she's playful. These are normal for
Tia. Now, let us say that Tia became suddenly very
outgoing, very rambunctious, and very playful and
I mean very playful, almost to the point of
annoyance. There's been a change in the waveform
pattern of her mind. She no longer behaves as Tia,
but behaves in a way that is now different. How
her behavior continues is the key. It could be a
temporary normal glitch in her mind but, let us
say it turns into a destructive nature, where it
becomes overbearingly irritable. That she gets
silly and does silly stupid things. Like picking
up a knife and doing the hand trick over and over
again where she could lose control and lose a
finger. That becomes something that needs to be
addressed. Now nine times out of ten you could
look at the person and get them to realize what
they are doing is wrong for their normal
behavioral patterns that is normal for them. You
have to establish their normal behavioral way. By
talking about it and getting them to remember how
they were is the first step to healing the
problem. But, you have to do this in a positive
way that at first they do not address the direct
problem. You have to work towards a goal of
finding out what has made their behavioral problem
change and why their wave form is no longer as it
was. That their mind is working in a different way
that is no longer normal for them. You have to
work towards the goal of getting their confidence
to find out what is actually going on deep inside
them. Why they are behaving in the way that they
are behaving. Now sometimes it is a chemical
imbalance and speaking and talking can help to a
certain extent to address the problem. And by
dealing with those problems and addressing the
problems, you can decrease the actual problem
itself. You don't do away with it, but you get
them to realize that thoughts that they have that
are destructive are bad. Now chemicals are used to
address problems that cannot be dealt with by
speech therapy alone. Talking to the person. Now
that should be dealt with by a licensed
practitioner who understands how chemicals
interact with the consciousness. Now when an
individual becomes self destructive, first of all
you have to get them to re-achieve self love. And
by achieving self love and getting them to
understand that they are worthy of love, they are
worthy of respect is the first step towards the
healing process. Having got them to love
themselves, why you have to address why did they
suddenly change to an erratic and dangerous
behavioral pattern. What made the love disappear?
What event occurred? And it may take a long time
to get to this point, where they address the
initial problem that caused them to lose self
love. Any questions?
R; How do you get
across to people who have such a low self esteem
that it needs to be built up before they can get
to that point?
Karra; You compliment them.
R; What if they don't
Karra; Very simple. If you keep saying it
enough, the them, they start to believe you. If
you say it genuinely, for example the phrase
''Hey, that was a great job, you did that well,
can you do it again?'' It will work after a period
of time. Just by being upbeat yourself, will help
you on that path.
R; Now wouldn't you
have to have a fairly good opinion of yourself
then to get somebody else to feel that same way?
Karra; Yes you do, though you can, but you
have to be a very accomplished actor.
R; Now dealing with a
question on self love and achieving it yourself,
doesn't it make it tougher when you are in a
relationship and your qualities and self worth
are questioned by the person you care the most
about? Maintaining that level of self love in an
atmosphere where you are being brought
Karra; Yes, it's called confidence. If
somebody's constantly trying to drag you down. You
have to find out why. What are you doing that
makes them want to drag you down. Now if you can't
find anything that is making them want to drag you
down, you have to look at them, what is happening
in their life that makes them want to drag you
down to their level. What is lacking in their life
that they have to bring people down to their
level. Understand that, you can help or you can
say ''it doesn't matter to me.'' Whichever you
choose to do is up to you. Now I'm going to wrap
up here, do you have any questions?
R; Yeah just one more
here, one question I would like answered is that
the ideal situation in a relationship is where
both parties are working equally to maintain
each others sense of self love and if that's not
happening, then it's up to the one party that
has the more confidence and self love to help
the other get to that point.
Karra; Correct, now the secret to a
successful bonding. Do you know what that is?
R; We never discussed
that really. You and I have that but that's
Karra; What is your concept of that?
R; That would be where
one person feels like the other person is more
important than themselves.
Karra; That's just part of it. Who is your
R; I don't know…..
Karra; Me, I'm your biggest fan. Who's
your best friend?
R; You are.
Karra; Who is there when you are down?
R; You are.
Karra; Who tells you when you do something
Karra; Who tells you when you do something
Karra; Who pats you on the back in a
figure of speech?
R; Always you.
Karra; Now, who compliments we all the
time? You do. Who's my biggest fan?
R; Definitely me.
Karra; who cheers me up when I'm down?
R; I try.
Karra; You succeed. That is the secret to
the perfect bonding. I'm your best friend, you're
my best friend. You are my cheerleader, I'm your
cheerleader. It has to be mutual, constantly
mutual. That is the secret. I'll see you later.
R; Bye love.
Omal; Greetings Russ.
Russ; Hello again Omal.
Your comments sir.
Omal; Comments, very well thought out. There
should be a little bit of a warning about
dealing with mental health, that you have to
maintain positive outlook no matter how dark
the individual is. OK, let me hand back to our