Karra On Healing & the Perfect Relationship

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Karra; Helloooo.
Russ; Hi Karra.
Karra; OK, let me get down to my dissertation. Mental Health. This is a nice one because you get to dovetail it with Omal's dissertation. Doesn't happen very often.
R; Good.
Karra; OK, let us look at mental health and the definition of normal. What is normal? Well, normal is a particular pattern that is keyed to one individual. What may be normal for myself may not be normal for Tia, Omal, yourself or the host body. So normality varies from individual to individual. So, when saying that is not normal, that is a thought process. That is not normal for you. Now, looking at the interaction of people that have erratic thought processes, you have an individual that has a pattern of behavior that they think in a particular way. They behave in a particular way. Let us take for example, Tia. She can be shy, she is very intelligent and understanding, she's playful. These are normal for Tia. Now, let us say that Tia became suddenly very outgoing, very rambunctious, and very playful and I mean very playful, almost to the point of annoyance. There's been a change in the waveform pattern of her mind. She no longer behaves as Tia, but behaves in a way that is now different. How her behavior continues is the key. It could be a temporary normal glitch in her mind but, let us say it turns into a destructive nature, where it becomes overbearingly irritable. That she gets silly and does silly stupid things. Like picking up a knife and doing the hand trick over and over again where she could lose control and lose a finger. That becomes something that needs to be addressed. Now nine times out of ten you could look at the person and get them to realize what they are doing is wrong for their normal behavioral patterns that is normal for them. You have to establish their normal behavioral way. By talking about it and getting them to remember how they were is the first step to healing the problem. But, you have to do this in a positive way that at first they do not address the direct problem. You have to work towards a goal of finding out what has made their behavioral problem change and why their wave form is no longer as it was. That their mind is working in a different way that is no longer normal for them. You have to work towards the goal of getting their confidence to find out what is actually going on deep inside them. Why they are behaving in the way that they are behaving. Now sometimes it is a chemical imbalance and speaking and talking can help to a certain extent to address the problem. And by dealing with those problems and addressing the problems, you can decrease the actual problem itself. You don't do away with it, but you get them to realize that thoughts that they have that are destructive are bad. Now chemicals are used to address problems that cannot be dealt with by speech therapy alone. Talking to the person. Now that should be dealt with by a licensed practitioner who understands how chemicals interact with the consciousness. Now when an individual becomes self destructive, first of all you have to get them to re-achieve self love. And by achieving self love and getting them to understand that they are worthy of love, they are worthy of respect is the first step towards the healing process. Having got them to love themselves, why you have to address why did they suddenly change to an erratic and dangerous behavioral pattern. What made the love disappear? What event occurred? And it may take a long time to get to this point, where they address the initial problem that caused them to lose self love. Any questions?
R; How do you get across to people who have such a low self esteem that it needs to be built up before they can get to that point?
Karra; You compliment them.
R; What if they don't believe you?
Karra; Very simple. If you keep saying it enough, the them, they start to believe you. If you say it genuinely, for example the phrase ''Hey, that was a great job, you did that well, can you do it again?'' It will work after a period of time. Just by being upbeat yourself, will help you on that path.
R; Now wouldn't you have to have a fairly good opinion of yourself then to get somebody else to feel that same way?
Karra; Yes you do, though you can, but you have to be a very accomplished actor.
R; Now dealing with a question on self love and achieving it yourself, doesn't it make it tougher when you are in a relationship and your qualities and self worth are questioned by the person you care the most about? Maintaining that level of self love in an atmosphere where you are being brought down…..any clues?
Karra; Yes, it's called confidence. If somebody's constantly trying to drag you down. You have to find out why. What are you doing that makes them want to drag you down. Now if you can't find anything that is making them want to drag you down, you have to look at them, what is happening in their life that makes them want to drag you down to their level. What is lacking in their life that they have to bring people down to their level. Understand that, you can help or you can say ''it doesn't matter to me.'' Whichever you choose to do is up to you. Now I'm going to wrap up here, do you have any questions?
R; Yeah just one more here, one question I would like answered is that the ideal situation in a relationship is where both parties are working equally to maintain each others sense of self love and if that's not happening, then it's up to the one party that has the more confidence and self love to help the other get to that point.
Karra; Correct, now the secret to a successful bonding. Do you know what that is?
R; We never discussed that really. You and I have that but that's different.
Karra; What is your concept of that?
R; That would be where one person feels like the other person is more important than themselves.
Karra; That's just part of it. Who is your biggest fan?
R; I don't know…..
Karra; Me, I'm your biggest fan. Who's your best friend?
R; You are.
Karra; Who is there when you are down?
R; You are.
Karra; Who tells you when you do something wrong?
R; You.
Karra; Who tells you when you do something right?
R; You.
Karra; Who pats you on the back in a figure of speech?
R; Always you.
Karra; Now, who compliments we all the time? You do. Who's my biggest fan?
R; Definitely me.
Karra; who cheers me up when I'm down?
R; I try.
Karra; You succeed. That is the secret to the perfect bonding. I'm your best friend, you're my best friend. You are my cheerleader, I'm your cheerleader. It has to be mutual, constantly mutual. That is the secret. I'll see you later.
R; Bye love.

Omal; Greetings Russ.
Russ; Hello again Omal. Your comments sir.
Omal; Comments, very well thought out. There should be a little bit of a warning about dealing with mental health, that you have to maintain positive outlook no matter how dark the individual is. OK, let me hand back to our ring mistress…….



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