Karra On Healing & the Perfect Relationship
Russ; Hi Karra.
Karra; OK, let me get down to my dissertation. Mental Health.
This is a nice one because you get to dovetail it with Omal's
dissertation. Doesn't happen very often.
Karra; OK, let us look at mental health and the definition of
normal. What is normal? Well, normal is a particular pattern
that is keyed to one individual. What may be normal for myself
may not be normal for Tia, Omal, yourself or the host body. So
normality varies from individual to individual. So, when
saying that is not normal, that is a thought process. That is
not normal for you. Now, looking at the interaction of people
that have erratic thought processes, you have an individual
that has a pattern of behavior that they think in a particular
way. They behave in a particular way. Let us take for example,
Tia. She can be shy, she is very intelligent and
understanding, she's playful. These are normal for Tia. Now,
let us say that Tia became suddenly very outgoing, very
rambunctious, and very playful and I mean very playful, almost
to the point of annoyance. There's been a change in the
waveform pattern of her mind. She no longer behaves as Tia,
but behaves in a way that is now different. How her behavior
continues is the key. It could be a temporary normal glitch in
her mind but, let us say it turns into a destructive nature,
where it becomes overbearingly irritable. That she gets silly
and does silly stupid things. Like picking up a knife and
doing the hand trick over and over again where she could lose
control and lose a finger. That becomes something that needs
to be addressed. Now nine times out of ten you could look at
the person and get them to realize what they are doing is
wrong for their normal behavioral patterns that is normal for
them. You have to establish their normal behavioral way. By
talking about it and getting them to remember how they were is
the first step to healing the problem. But, you have to do
this in a positive way that at first they do not address the
direct problem. You have to work towards a goal of finding out
what has made their behavioral problem change and why their
wave form is no longer as it was. That their mind is working
in a different way that is no longer normal for them. You have
to work towards the goal of getting their confidence to find
out what is actually going on deep inside them. Why they are
behaving in the way that they are behaving. Now sometimes it
is a chemical imbalance and speaking and talking can help to a
certain extent to address the problem. And by dealing with
those problems and addressing the problems, you can decrease
the actual problem itself. You don't do away with it, but you
get them to realize that thoughts that they have that are
destructive are bad. Now chemicals are used to address
problems that cannot be dealt with by speech therapy alone.
Talking to the person. Now that should be dealt with by a
licensed practitioner who understands how chemicals interact
with the consciousness. Now when an individual becomes self
destructive, first of all you have to get them to re-achieve
self love. And by achieving self love and getting them to
understand that they are worthy of love, they are worthy of
respect is the first step towards the healing process. Having
got them to love themselves, why you have to address why did
they suddenly change to an erratic and dangerous behavioral
pattern. What made the love disappear? What event occurred?
And it may take a long time to get to this point, where they
address the initial problem that caused them to lose self
love. Any questions?
R; How do you get across to people who have
such a low self esteem that it needs to be built up before
they can get to that point?
Karra; You compliment them.
R; What if they don't believe you?
Karra; Very simple. If you keep saying it enough, the them,
they start to believe you. If you say it genuinely, for
example the phrase ''Hey, that was a great job, you did that
well, can you do it again?'' It will work after a period of
time. Just by being upbeat yourself, will help you on that
R; Now wouldn't you have to have a fairly
good opinion of yourself then to get somebody else to feel
that same way?
Karra; Yes you do, though you can, but you have to be a very
R; Now dealing with a question on self love
and achieving it yourself, doesn't it make it tougher when
you are in a relationship and your qualities and self worth
are questioned by the person you care the most about?
Maintaining that level of self love in an atmosphere where
you are being brought down…..any clues?
Karra; Yes, it's called confidence. If somebody's constantly
trying to drag you down. You have to find out why. What are
you doing that makes them want to drag you down. Now if you
can't find anything that is making them want to drag you down,
you have to look at them, what is happening in their life that
makes them want to drag you down to their level. What is
lacking in their life that they have to bring people down to
their level. Understand that, you can help or you can say ''it
doesn't matter to me.'' Whichever you choose to do is up to
you. Now I'm going to wrap up here, do you have any questions?
R; Yeah just one more here, one question I
would like answered is that the ideal situation in a
relationship is where both parties are working equally to
maintain each others sense of self love and if that's not
happening, then it's up to the one party that has the more
confidence and self love to help the other get to that
Karra; Correct, now the secret to a successful bonding. Do you
know what that is?
R; We never discussed that really. You and
I have that but that's different.
Karra; What is your concept of that?
R; That would be where one person feels
like the other person is more important than themselves.
Karra; That's just part of it. Who is your biggest fan?
R; I don't know…..
Karra; Me, I'm your biggest fan. Who's your best friend?
R; You are.
Karra; Who is there when you are down?
R; You are.
Karra; Who tells you when you do something wrong?
Karra; Who tells you when you do something right?
Karra; Who pats you on the back in a figure of speech?
R; Always you.
Karra; Now, who compliments we all the time? You do. Who's my
R; Definitely me.
Karra; who cheers me up when I'm down?
R; I try.
Karra; You succeed. That is the secret to the perfect bonding.
I'm your best friend, you're my best friend. You are my
cheerleader, I'm your cheerleader. It has to be mutual,
constantly mutual. That is the secret. I'll see you later.
R; Bye love.
Omal; Greetings Russ.
Russ; Hello again Omal. Your comments
Omal; Comments, very well thought out. There should be a
little bit of a warning about dealing with mental health,
that you have to maintain positive outlook no matter how
dark the individual is. OK, let me hand back to our ring
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